For some time now, it is no longer a taboo to talk about spirituality and mystical experiences. Many of us have probably heard the term "inner peace" already mentioned in discussions on such topics.

However, what exactly is "inner peace", can anyone achieve it, and most of all "how" and "why" are questions that I will try to answer in this article. For those of us who have experienced it at least once, there is no need for explanations, although this is a strictly individual experience, everyone who touched it would nod with a smile and understanding when it comes to these priceless moments.

Inner peace is a state of mind, just like fear and its derivatives: anger, anxiety, envy. In this sense, it can be said that inner peace is an emotion. An emotion that combines a sense of security, disposition, gratitude, empathy, unity, satisfaction, ease.

Why is it so important to strive to find our inner peace?

The quickest answer to this question is: - To feel good, of course! For many of us, the fast-paced rhythm, the anxiety about the bills, the uncertain future and the unforgettable past, the anxiety about our loved ones and the echoing quiver with this and that, still represent the majority of emotions in our daily lives.

We are so accustomed to this daily routine that we do not even stop for a moment, take a break from it and look from the outside. We have lost our childhood curiosity and reconciled that this is life. To deal with it, we become cynical, offensive, critical, unyielding, clutched in our shell, in which tension turns the wheel again, and here is another Monday in which the only good thing is that it still holds the memory of the late rising on Sunday.

The fall

I suppose, like many others, swirling in the "reality" of everyday life, I was completely immersed in the darker debris of materialism.

From a very young age, my notions of God and spirituality came to two extremes, growing up in a father's family with a prominent atheist and esoteric mother.

I was passionate about reading books and stories about the afterlife, prophecies, divinations, and more, while at the same time being ashamed of what my father would say when he saw me praying.

At one point, esotericism and spirituality in general gave way to cynicism and sarcasm to the idea of ​​the all-seeing God the only creator and Jesus his prophet and earthly son. The archaic face of the church as the sole bearer and guardian of the spiritual contributed to this to a great extent. A person who has been covered in blood, corruption and low passions many times over the centuries. On the other hand, my own ignorance made my rational mind pay less and less attention to spirituality. Church holidays and rituals were just a "tradition," and my favorite argument was, "We can't all be brothers and sisters because of Adam and Eve."

With each passing year, I kept moving myself away from spirituality more and more, falling into the trap of perceptions of a harsh, meaningless and cruel world.

When did I realize something needed to change?

At one point I found myself on the edge of a precipice. I would soon finish my higher education, and I had no goal in front of me. I was disgusted by the idea of ​​spending my time in a corporate structure. The thought that my life would flow like a "book" - two children, a family, working from 9 to 5, and the ceaseless drive to consume "cheap" products - was just as contrary. I didn't see a way out. I was looking for a culprit. God was merely a precept, for something I did not understand and did not have a definition of myself, but I nevertheless denied it.

After a fateful journey filled with many existential questions, I came across a book that overturned my perceptions by 360 degrees. I decided to find my inner peace. Over the last four years or so, I have had the opportunity to touch him several times, sometimes briefly, other times longer. The road to perseverance is a long and obstructive one for me, but once it has experienced the calm and endless breadth of the universe, my soul will not stop looking for them again and again.

What happens to me:

  1. I began to meditate and breathe deeply and consciously, at least 10 minutes per day.
  2. I stopped criticizing people and blaming others for problems and situations I didn't like.
  3. I stopped using negative and offensive words in my speech.
  4. I stopped trying to help others when they didn't ask for my help.
  5. I began to pay attention to nature and its beauty.
  6. I became grateful for the past and began to trust in the future.
  7. I realized that the things that annoy me and dislike some people are the things I don't really like about myself.
  8. I realized that what I think others think of me is actually how I see myself at that moment.
  9. I realized that my brain was plastic and that bad habits could be reprogrammed.
  10. I began to tell the truth to others, and especially to myself.
  11. I freed myself from my expectations of how my life should go, what is right and what is not, who is right and who is wrong.

Of course, over the course of the 4 years, I have had and still have many moments where I forget about the statements above. I am grateful that these moments are getting shorter and shorter.

For those of you who would like to try or are in the beginning of your adventure "inner peace", I would like to share some valuable tips from Prof. Gayle Brenner, author of The Blooming Life. I have not read it, but I look forward to commenting on it from those of you who came across it!

Here's what Gayle says about difficult situations that bring us back to our negative emotions and reactions:

  • When challenged, instead of reacting in the usual way to you, whether by aggression, sadness, or cold, stop for a moment and breathe, inhale and exhale slowly and deeply at least three times.

This is the most important moment in the process of achieving inner peace, and perhaps the most difficult, because we are so accustomed to our usual reactions and comments that our brains operate on autopilot. It recognizes the situation and gives us quick access to the already stored reactions that we usually produce in a given case. Neuroplasty claims that these "habits" we create can be changed so that the next time we face the same situation we will consciously react differently. How? With perseverance. The more often we follow Gayle's first advice, the easier it will be until we have a new habit. The most important thing here is not to be critical of ourselves. When we forget or fail to control ourselves, it is not the end of the world. We will learn while we are alive!

  • As you take a deep breath, just pay attention to the thoughts that go through your head at that moment. Do not get involved in them, because this will only intensify your negative reaction, do not judge them as good or bad. Just mark them one by one in an invisible notebook. Then you feel with your whole body how you feel at that moment? Where do you feel the tension of these thoughts, in the heart, on the stomach, somewhere else? Where are you experiencing pain and discomfort right now? Answering these questions you will notice how often the answers are repeated in visibly different situations. You will understand how your habits work.
  • Find this nook in your heart that produces unconditional love! For some, this may be the condition we fall into when we see a cute little puppy or when we look at our little baby. Inhale this feeling with your whole being, and slowly exhale as you watch the air flow through the places where you feel tension or pain.
  • Shake off and repeat as many times as necessary.
  • Continue forward with gratitude for the situation that has helped you to clear a bit of negative and intense energy from your system at that very moment. Aim this warm feeling at the person against you, who triggered the event and look at it - yourself.

Namaste: "Best of me, congratulations to the best of you!"

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