Life goes on despite our impatience and anxiety. Unfortunately, sometimes we cannot fully enjoy the beauty and joy of the very process of happening around us, precisely because of our impatience. The demand for things to happen now and often often leads to additional stress and tension in the situation.

"Perceive the pace of nature. Her secret is patience. "

“Ralph Waldo Emerson

Today, in the hectic daily routine of modern life, it is particularly important to increase our level of patience so that we can adequately deal with stressful situations. Impatience is an emotion that affects almost everyone at some point, more often and more intensely than others.

The founder of the Heart and Mathematics Institute, Doc Childer, describes patience as "the art of waiting intelligently" - an important element in how things happen around us. The mission of the Heart and Mathematics Institute is to explore the connection between our heart and our brain, as well as to develop methods for enhancing this connection and methods for successfully reducing the stress of our daily lives.

Their methods are based on recent discoveries in the field of cardiac neurology. They say that the heart has its own nervous system, which exists independently from the brain, is capable of learning, memorizing, even sensing information, as well as exchanging it with the brain.

"Patience is the mastery of maintaining a state of inner ease and flexibility when confronted with situations that make you anxious and obstinate," Childer says. situations. ""Impatience is an invitation for discontent, blurred insight, and even leads to hasty conclusions and choices. If we make the habit of focusing a little more on our heart at such moments, then we have a real chance to turn impatience into patience, because when our hearts are committed to the idea of ​​patience, our brains relax and begin to assist in the creation of this state. "

Although we sometimes do not realize that we have given in to impatience, it is definitely not an emotion that cannot be controlled. There is no reason why we, as conscious beings, cannot make the choice of patience or impatience - it all depends on our desire and will.

Think of situations where you felt impatient! - while waiting for a long queue at the store, for example, or while an annoying neighbor tells you an endlessly long story, or until your optical internet loads a page barely. How many of these situations have made you think: "I can't deal with this anymore! I don't want to be here! I don't want to do that! "

How much effort would it cost you instead to turn to your heart and say, "I have a choice - the internet is not up to me, but it is entirely up to me to feel peace in the current situation."

"The greatest ideas in history often come in the wake of a sudden rush of inspiration. Then patience prepares them to see the white light! "

Illustration: Elena Mantovan

Even people who regularly meditate or use other stress-reduction techniques still sometimes find themselves anxious and anxious. For them, of course, the feeling of such a feeling is rather a note of its existence, after which they just let it go. This is also one of the main goals of such practices - once touched by a state of real calmness, it is much easier to register unpleasant sensations as side-observers rather than delve into their element.

From personal experience, I can say that I have an inherent impatience and anguish that I already dare to master much better than before. My mother often likes to say, "You are in a hurry, and you are even born in a hurry!" Over the years, this desire, everything to happen now and immediately, has repeatedly played bad jokes to me. Not to mention how many unnecessary nerves and aggression have arisen in me on every tail in the mail, on every missed green traffic light, or for every minute when someone wrongfully delayed me with something.

What's more interesting is that I myself did not feel well when I reacted in this way, but instead of turning to myself, I was finding fault with others - the sluggish mail clerk, the slow-moving driver, in disinterested friends, and so on and so forth. The culprits you want! I did not even think that I was not a victim of situations, but only of my own ignorance and unwillingness to change my perceptions.

One day, I, like many people, realized that I could not be angry about things that didn't depend on me, and I couldn't control when and how quickly they would happen. Here is a simple exercise for developing patience suggested by the Heart and Mathematics Institute:

If you are anxious or anxious, try to note the situation that has put you off balance! Do not try to block or ignore feelings of resentment, anger, anger, anxiety, or the need to criticize others. Just mark them down, note what you are feeling at that moment and what created that feeling! Do not judge, neither yourself nor the situation!

  • Take about a minute or two and get your breathing focused in your heart area! Breathe slower than usual! Imagine taking in air through your heart, slowly and deeply! For easier visualization, you can imagine the air in the form of white light passing through your heart and filling your body every time you inhale and exhale.
  • After the first few breaths, focus your attention on the feeling of lightness and serenity in your heart! Think of a moment or event that triggered such a sensation and try to feel the same thing again! Do not lose focus from the heart area!
  • As with every exercise, it becomes easier and faster with practice and perseverance.  

Understand that patience does not mean that stressful situations or irritants will disappear, the only thing that will disappear when we cultivate patience in us is our own negative reaction to situations that do not depend on us. It's very simple - the congestion will not evaporate if we bite our hands out of anger and nerves as it will not evaporate and if we decide to use it to enjoy the beautiful side view, to talk to a friend on the phone or to just we listen to music. Our clogging is there, as is our free choice to be angry or enjoy it.

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